By Aruna Ladva

It’s always encouraging to know that we have a choice in everything we do, even if we might eventually choose the same thing that is already in place or on offer. Knowing that we have an option empowers us! The fact that we have a choice makes us feel that we are in charge of our lives and in control of the course of our destiny.

Everyone is choosing at every moment. I can choose to get irritated or angry, or choose to remain calm. Once I am able to view life from this lens of having a choice, I am no longer subservient to the drama of life and other people. At every turn I can decide to stay in control, or to allow other things to control me!

Choosing to remain calm is a gift we can offer to ourselves to break the vicious cycle of anger and fear that shakes our inner stability and impairs the quality of interpersonal relationships, our family life, and our working and social atmosphere.

A calm response is not a weak or passive one, but it comes from a state of inner strength that allows us to remain stable when facing a situation. A calm response indicates an inherent self-respect and reveals the mastery we have over our own minds.

When we choose to be calm rather than reactive, it is not that we are controlling our anger or suppressing ourselves, instead we are making a deliberate decision to walk the path of wellbeing for our own benefit and the benefit of others.

The stock of calm has to be accumulated over time. Although one powerful thought to remain calm in the heat of the moment might save you, yet, ensuring that you have a stock will make you confident and carefree always.

Only a clean and pure state of mind is able to create positive thoughts. Learn to clean the clutter from the mind and you will be able to remain calm and cool easily.

3 Steps to Calm

Step 1
Focus on your breath. Gently breathe in calm and breathe out any tension from your body. Slow down your thoughts. Relax your mind and body.

Step 2
Connect with a memory of deepest peace and calm. Allow feelings of serenity to flow into you, filling every part of you with a deeper sense of stillness and tranquility.

Step 3
Feeling empowered and refreshed, emerge this renewed energy into every area of your life.

It’s time… to remember that you have a choice at every moment.
Take charge of your life, by choosing the option to remain calm and peaceful. If you don’t make the choice, then someone else will choose on your behalf!

It’s time… to think before you think, think before you speak and think before you act.  Taking that little extra time to hold this attention will reap greater dividends in the long run.  Become like the tortoise, ‘smell the roses’ and thereafter be the master and go within your ‘shell’.

‘It’s Time…” by Aruna Ladva (

To Learn more about meditation, contact your local centre:

Brahma Kumaris Meditation Centre

3467 Monmouth Avenue

Vancouver, BC